As I began working with Alma and helping to spread the word about BrainWorx,
I had the stunning realization that my father struggled with undiagnosed and untreated ADHD his entire life.
This was a huge breakthrough for me because
throughout my entire life my father had a drug and alcohol addiction
that led to violence, chaos and embarrassing situations. My family also struggled with finances because of his addiction.
In 1997, I discovered personal development …
Personal development helped me to become aware that
my feelings about my father were based on stories that I had subconsciously made up about him when I was very young,
and now that I was an adult I had the power to re-frame those stories into something that was more true, and more empowering for me.
So I uncovered a new story about my father…
a version that said “my father loved me, and he did the best he could.” This new story helped me forgive my father, but I still didn’t have the context to understand why my father did what he did in the first place.